I don't know why it's surprising that most bi/pan people end up with a partner of the opposite gender.
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I don't know why it's surprising that most bi/pan people end up with a partner of the opposite gender. Most people are straight. It's just math.
Really it's more remarkable that so many bi/pan people *don't* find such relationships. I suspect this is because one wants to avoid homophobic and trans phobic people. And while most of them are also straight, it's not as big of a proportion.
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I don't know why it's surprising that most bi/pan people end up with a partner of the opposite gender. Most people are straight. It's just math.
Really it's more remarkable that so many bi/pan people *don't* find such relationships. I suspect this is because one wants to avoid homophobic and trans phobic people. And while most of them are also straight, it's not as big of a proportion.
@futurebird I guess the hard part is accounting for context: the built-in biases society has taught us to pretend are neutral.
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I don't know why it's surprising that most bi/pan people end up with a partner of the opposite gender. Most people are straight. It's just math.
Really it's more remarkable that so many bi/pan people *don't* find such relationships. I suspect this is because one wants to avoid homophobic and trans phobic people. And while most of them are also straight, it's not as big of a proportion.
"Most people are straight."
There are people on the fedi who will be shocked to learn this, so there is learning all around to be done.
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"Most people are straight."
There are people on the fedi who will be shocked to learn this, so there is learning all around to be done.
@futurebird I mean, that's the theory? But I find it hard to believe myself.
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I don't know why it's surprising that most bi/pan people end up with a partner of the opposite gender. Most people are straight. It's just math.
Really it's more remarkable that so many bi/pan people *don't* find such relationships. I suspect this is because one wants to avoid homophobic and trans phobic people. And while most of them are also straight, it's not as big of a proportion.
@futurebird I always thought they choose opposite gender relationships in the end because it's the easiest way to have children
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"Most people are straight."
There are people on the fedi who will be shocked to learn this, so there is learning all around to be done.
@futurebird I believe most people are some form of bi, but (choose to) see themselves as straight, because that's society's normal. I have had so many conversations with 'straight' friends who said they had some degree of attraction to people of the same gender. But maybe my friends are not representative of society as a whole.
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@futurebird I believe most people are some form of bi, but (choose to) see themselves as straight, because that's society's normal. I have had so many conversations with 'straight' friends who said they had some degree of attraction to people of the same gender. But maybe my friends are not representative of society as a whole.
This is a very bi way of thinking and it can be hard to see that. Frankly it's the biggest tell we have.
"What's next? I only date left handed people? How odd. Come on isn't everyone bi? "
No, no they are not LMAO. There are straight people and gay ones too, and they aren't bi at all somehow. Bizarre, right?
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@futurebird I always thought they choose opposite gender relationships in the end because it's the easiest way to have children
IDK if people are that pragmatic when falling in love? Some may be. But it's hard to find someone who you really like and want to be with all the time. The "mechanics" can come later.
And there are many ways to have kids if you want kids. (Not to minimize that this can be hard for some people. I really wanted kids, and it's been a struggle.)
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@futurebird I mean, that's the theory? But I find it hard to believe myself.
@modulux @futurebird every so often someone runs a new poll up the flagpole, and it turns out that most people on fedi are straight! (though the proportions run a lot closer than they do in census data)
i was utterly shocked the first time i saw that result. i've got used to it since... though it still doesn't reflect the fedi i see (which is probably at least 80% very not straight at all)
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