Take a look at "Life, take two!" At first I thought she was exaggerating.
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Take a look at "Life, take two!" At first I thought she was exaggerating. She talks about how her pastor discouraged her from going to college (!) from doing anything that might lead to financial independence.
She listened to that bad advice, found herself trapped. Then she got out. She has little positive to say about marriage.
The idea of discouraging someone from going to college was so alien at first I didn't believe her. But I think this is really happening.
Yes. There are pockets of antisocial and even antihuman beliefs everywhere in our culture. Some blow up and become forces in themselves, like the LLM cult. Or neofascist sects.
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Take a look at "Life, take two!" At first I thought she was exaggerating. She talks about how her pastor discouraged her from going to college (!) from doing anything that might lead to financial independence.
She listened to that bad advice, found herself trapped. Then she got out. She has little positive to say about marriage.
The idea of discouraging someone from going to college was so alien at first I didn't believe her. But I think this is really happening.
Being a homemaker is incredibly important work. There is nothing wrong with being woman who thinks "what matters most to me is that I can be a good mother" that's kind of amazing.
The first thing that you need to make that dream a reality is independence and your OWN financial stability. Anyone who tells you that, you can't do that unless you "trust in a man to provide for you" is trying to lead you into a very pretty little cage.
And no, we of the left, will not hate you for your dream.
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Being a homemaker is incredibly important work. There is nothing wrong with being woman who thinks "what matters most to me is that I can be a good mother" that's kind of amazing.
The first thing that you need to make that dream a reality is independence and your OWN financial stability. Anyone who tells you that, you can't do that unless you "trust in a man to provide for you" is trying to lead you into a very pretty little cage.
And no, we of the left, will not hate you for your dream.
Women:
* Own property
* Have bank accounts
* Have the education and skills to take care of yourself.These are hard things for people of all genders to do "in this economy" it's a big fat lie that "leaving it to the man" is anything like a solution.
If you really love him you might need to take care of him too, and yourself and the kids. Amass the knowledge and power to protect everything and everyone you love. That is how you "make the home."
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Women:
* Own property
* Have bank accounts
* Have the education and skills to take care of yourself.These are hard things for people of all genders to do "in this economy" it's a big fat lie that "leaving it to the man" is anything like a solution.
If you really love him you might need to take care of him too, and yourself and the kids. Amass the knowledge and power to protect everything and everyone you love. That is how you "make the home."
These things can be easier and better when you aren't alone. That's what a marriage can be. Two people with shared values who are happier and stronger together than alone. There are a lot of social templates that cast women into one role and men into another. These roles are not equal and the role as cast for men has more freedoms, although both are constricted.
Have there been women who were happy homemakers untroubled by the world? Yes. There have also been women exploited by that dream.
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Take a look at "Life, take two!" At first I thought she was exaggerating. She talks about how her pastor discouraged her from going to college (!) from doing anything that might lead to financial independence.
She listened to that bad advice, found herself trapped. Then she got out. She has little positive to say about marriage.
The idea of discouraging someone from going to college was so alien at first I didn't believe her. But I think this is really happening.
@futurebird
I've been watching Jenny's videos lately. She has a lot of insight into cultural aspects of MAGA that can be inscrutable to outsiders.Women in my community were also discouraged to go to college. A waste of years that could be spent making babies.
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These things can be easier and better when you aren't alone. That's what a marriage can be. Two people with shared values who are happier and stronger together than alone. There are a lot of social templates that cast women into one role and men into another. These roles are not equal and the role as cast for men has more freedoms, although both are constricted.
Have there been women who were happy homemakers untroubled by the world? Yes. There have also been women exploited by that dream.
@futurebird I just want people like my female colleagues and juniors at work to enjoy the happiness of not having to flatter or deal with being hit on by men like me.
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These things can be easier and better when you aren't alone. That's what a marriage can be. Two people with shared values who are happier and stronger together than alone. There are a lot of social templates that cast women into one role and men into another. These roles are not equal and the role as cast for men has more freedoms, although both are constricted.
Have there been women who were happy homemakers untroubled by the world? Yes. There have also been women exploited by that dream.
There is nothing wrong with using the template if it works for the life you want to create. But, be aware that you are using a template, you can toss it aside if it doesn't fit.
And try not to close doors in your life, such as education, that might make such a change possible.
Of course this is easy to say. Harder to Do.
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Women:
* Own property
* Have bank accounts
* Have the education and skills to take care of yourself.These are hard things for people of all genders to do "in this economy" it's a big fat lie that "leaving it to the man" is anything like a solution.
If you really love him you might need to take care of him too, and yourself and the kids. Amass the knowledge and power to protect everything and everyone you love. That is how you "make the home."
@futurebird i strongly feel that the quality of life for an entire community is directly dependent on the level of independence, choices and education the women have access to. I see the pattern of this correlation everywhere I look. A lot of money and effort has been spent on obscuring the connection
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@futurebird
I've been watching Jenny's videos lately. She has a lot of insight into cultural aspects of MAGA that can be inscrutable to outsiders.Women in my community were also discouraged to go to college. A waste of years that could be spent making babies.
@futurebird
Okay, also, as someone who grew up in right-wing fundamentalism... You are genuine when you say that the idea of discouraging women from education was so foreign as to be nearly unbelievable?That's *wild* to me that that is your experience. Goes to show how insulated "insular" communities like mine really were.
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@futurebird i strongly feel that the quality of life for an entire community is directly dependent on the level of independence, choices and education the women have access to. I see the pattern of this correlation everywhere I look. A lot of money and effort has been spent on obscuring the connection
I totally agree.
Women having the freedom to do what they want changes everything and there are some people who really really really don't like all of the status, free labor, and opportunities to exploit that become harder when this happens.
They want everyone put back in our little boxes.
And there is a lot of propaganda to try to get young women to feel their only "value" is their youth and child bearing hips.
It is nonsense.
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Being a homemaker is incredibly important work. There is nothing wrong with being woman who thinks "what matters most to me is that I can be a good mother" that's kind of amazing.
The first thing that you need to make that dream a reality is independence and your OWN financial stability. Anyone who tells you that, you can't do that unless you "trust in a man to provide for you" is trying to lead you into a very pretty little cage.
And no, we of the left, will not hate you for your dream.
@futurebird One of the most important jobs in world is being a MOTHER and NURTURING of the future adults...that position alone has so many fields within one home ...
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@futurebird
Okay, also, as someone who grew up in right-wing fundamentalism... You are genuine when you say that the idea of discouraging women from education was so foreign as to be nearly unbelievable?That's *wild* to me that that is your experience. Goes to show how insulated "insular" communities like mine really were.
It was honestly a shock to me. But my mom is a black woman who was a college professor in the 70s, her mother was a homemaker with a 6th grade education, her mother worked on a tobacco plantation and learned to read from the Bible.
All of them would agree "girl, you better have your own bank account, I don't care how much you love him."
I think, since black women have never been really offered the "homemaker" status the nature of the sham is a bit more obvious from over here.
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Women:
* Own property
* Have bank accounts
* Have the education and skills to take care of yourself.These are hard things for people of all genders to do "in this economy" it's a big fat lie that "leaving it to the man" is anything like a solution.
If you really love him you might need to take care of him too, and yourself and the kids. Amass the knowledge and power to protect everything and everyone you love. That is how you "make the home."
Life happens. You might have the perfect partner and then suddenly they are gone.
Happened to my grandmother. Three kids, has just quit her job and sold the house in Seattle to buy a farm, she was no farmer grandpa was. Then bammo he nearly dies from an infection and she had to scramble to unsell the house reclaim her job and support the family for a couple of years while he recovers. He later died at 65 she lived to 101, her own pension kept her comfortable until death.
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Take a look at "Life, take two!" At first I thought she was exaggerating. She talks about how her pastor discouraged her from going to college (!) from doing anything that might lead to financial independence.
She listened to that bad advice, found herself trapped. Then she got out. She has little positive to say about marriage.
The idea of discouraging someone from going to college was so alien at first I didn't believe her. But I think this is really happening.
@futurebird Somehow, i've managed to avoid paying attention to the output of matt walsh until now.
After seeing those clips around 7 minutes in: holy shit, that man is a straight-up child predator who's trying to get large numbers of men to become child predators.
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There is nothing wrong with using the template if it works for the life you want to create. But, be aware that you are using a template, you can toss it aside if it doesn't fit.
And try not to close doors in your life, such as education, that might make such a change possible.
Of course this is easy to say. Harder to Do.
@futurebird I had a friend in from HS, his parents had gotten divorced and the mother put in the extra effort to keep her boys in the same schools/friends they grew up with. Her choices were limited because she hadn’t graduated college.
Seeing that difficulty pushed me for dating/marrying college educated women. I didn’t plan on getting divorced, but if it did happen, I wanted her to have options.
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@futurebird Somehow, i've managed to avoid paying attention to the output of matt walsh until now.
After seeing those clips around 7 minutes in: holy shit, that man is a straight-up child predator who's trying to get large numbers of men to become child predators.
@futurebird I don't know if this got enough emphasis in the video but: it seems clear enough that one of the reasons why matt walsh 16-year-old girls to be getting married is because it's a lot easier to manipulate someone who hasn't had much life experience (or *any* life experience).
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It was honestly a shock to me. But my mom is a black woman who was a college professor in the 70s, her mother was a homemaker with a 6th grade education, her mother worked on a tobacco plantation and learned to read from the Bible.
All of them would agree "girl, you better have your own bank account, I don't care how much you love him."
I think, since black women have never been really offered the "homemaker" status the nature of the sham is a bit more obvious from over here.
My great grand mother got married at 16 for the first time. She had three husbands. They were all in their 40s and 50s.
If she was not married she would have lost the little scrap of land they owned, against all odds in NC. If her children didn't have a mother who was married to their father they would face social exclusion.
She understood this and worked within it. Kept the land, improved it. Raised a massive family.
The template was hardened. Unhelpful. She was so brave.
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I totally agree.
Women having the freedom to do what they want changes everything and there are some people who really really really don't like all of the status, free labor, and opportunities to exploit that become harder when this happens.
They want everyone put back in our little boxes.
And there is a lot of propaganda to try to get young women to feel their only "value" is their youth and child bearing hips.
It is nonsense.
@futurebird @bri7
Not being the smartest person in the room is always beneficial regardless of one’s sexual orientation. -
It was honestly a shock to me. But my mom is a black woman who was a college professor in the 70s, her mother was a homemaker with a 6th grade education, her mother worked on a tobacco plantation and learned to read from the Bible.
All of them would agree "girl, you better have your own bank account, I don't care how much you love him."
I think, since black women have never been really offered the "homemaker" status the nature of the sham is a bit more obvious from over here.
@futurebird
Ok, yes, that makes a lot of sense. It is absolutely tied to whiteness. I think in addition to financial dependence, it also keeps white women in their own communities, unaware of & frightened by the world outside. White supremacy needs white women scared & dependent so that they will serve the men & do the labor in exchange for "protection". -
My great grand mother got married at 16 for the first time. She had three husbands. They were all in their 40s and 50s.
If she was not married she would have lost the little scrap of land they owned, against all odds in NC. If her children didn't have a mother who was married to their father they would face social exclusion.
She understood this and worked within it. Kept the land, improved it. Raised a massive family.
The template was hardened. Unhelpful. She was so brave.
My grand mother had just one husband and married at age 18. She loved him, I think. He worked in the steel mill and she packed his lunches and kept house.
The template was still there. But I think she found a better place in it.
She sent all five of her kids to college. Especially the girls. Especially my mom and aunt. And she sometimes resented how smart and fancy they had become, but she never doubted it was the right thing to do.
She was embarrassed that she struggled to read.
