@futurebird @Lana I’m pretty vocal about my history of CSA. Even well-meaning people often need me to be like… “hey, you responded to my experience of violence by wanting to inflict more violence, do you think that helps me? Do you think more violence will make me feel safer?”
Most of them get it. These guys tend to 180 and accuse me of deserving it, bc the violence is the point to them. But so many reasonable people default to that violence, too. It’s cultural IMO.