I often worry that I'm doing something that annoys people, at work, at home, online, on the bus anywhere...
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I have a recurring tiff like that with my husband over a shared colleague. It’s not that he wants to bond with me over complaining about her, he wants me to stop complaining about the problems she causes (eg putting too much of her work on me)
This is why I wonder if that’s what is going on with your coworkers because the reaction you describe is so similar.
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That seems odd that they are getting mad at you for not blaming a third person.
I wonder if maybe you are complaining and centering it on some failure about you or the general world when the problem is the third person.
Maybe they don’t like the complaining and know it can be solved if you focused on the real problem.
They aren't getting mad at me. I'm just fretting over if they might be mad... and not telling me. This is a theme.
I'm always worried someone is mad about something and not telling me.
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I have a recurring tiff like that with my husband over a shared colleague. It’s not that he wants to bond with me over complaining about her, he wants me to stop complaining about the problems she causes (eg putting too much of her work on me)
I don't know if I understand. Are you saying he's tired of hearing you complain about this person because to him you aren't fixing it?
I think I've lost the thread here.
