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I literally ran the numbers and realized I only met about 3 new people in my age range as friends every 5 years or so.
My husband and I had zero friends in common, did none of the same clubs or activities. We would have never met in NYC if not for the dating app.
I agree up to a point. This can be a trap: people will think that just by doing things they care about with other people they will eventually "naturally" just meet someone. It was only when I leveled with myself about what I wanted "I want to get married, a life long relationship" that I started making any real progress.
I knew many nice people but not enough to meet someone like my husband.
Started to think there was something wrong with me since it didn't just magically "happen"
He's just saying the new buzzword. Matchmaking isn't as complex as people want to make it. The most important thing is that the people want the same kind of relationship. So they have a shared vision of being together that makes sense.
"What would it be like to take care of this person when they are sick? What will it be like to find their dishes in the sink?" These questions are key.
It's pretty normal to want a partner, they won't change who you are or solve your problems.
I always thought that matchmaking should be like a kind of guild, and the matchmakers would have sashes with badges showing off all the good matches they'd made. It'd be all about bragging rights for the kind of people who pride themselves on having those kinds of advanced social skills.
Maybe I will put such a guild in one of my stories.
Louis Rossmann is horrified that there are now paywalls on wheelchairs and we should all be horrified along with him.
He explains how a hacker has circumvented and unlocked these features.
That could be the more general umbrella. A great deal of the horrors of the "world of dating" seem to come from people who aren't looking for the same thing wasting each others time.
If you want to get in a life long relationship be upfront about that. There are people who are looking for you!
Lots of people don't want to get married and that's fine. I just think if people want to find someone they should be able to. Being married can be awesome.
@FanCityKnits @knitting @fiberarts
I love this color combo and design. Super cute.
What if we started #fediMarried? Bad idea? probably.
I still think there ought to be some kind of introverts matchmaking service. And obviously it couldn't be a paid service as that gets the incentive structure wrong.
I found my husband of 18 years online before "match.com" was totally broken. IDK what I'd do today.
I know 6 people who kind of want to get married but none of them match. Gotta cast a wider net. They are introverts so this will not happen. How many have you got?
Pica's Nicnames:
gobber
gobberella
The Fart Farmer
Little Beast
Forest Creature
Inky
Reality Show Ideas:
Porch Pirates of Palm Beach
Follow the antics of people who steal packages from fancy gated communities.
Dark Web Danny
Danny looks for love on an onion service, will he find that special someone?
Facebook Marketplace Vigilante Sheriff
One elderly woman tries to clean up her local Facebook marketplace by going after the scammers and discovers a world of crime.
I think I had it too this morning. But I've been drinking water and too angry to get sick.
Totally doing a Bene Gesserit costume for Halloween next year. Starting the planning now.
My husband has a fever so I'm not going to do the New Year's swim. Perhaps next year.
Poor guy.
OK but #picaTheCat says that if there is food in the lap that is an "automatic benefit" and "possible new resource to be mined" and she thinks he's being very logical.
At 3am, and at every other hour too.
"non-consensual scraping"
Shudder-worthy combo of words, happening on a server near you right now.
"Old Fashioned Electric Blue Raspberry Gum."
If a recipe from the late 19th century calls for rolled oats. Would it say "use the new fashionable rolled oats?"